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Showing posts with label hal kahwin. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hal kahwin. Show all posts

Monday, September 21, 2015

Hal Kahwin: Sunnah vs Society


First of all... i want directly mention that if you feel uncomfortable about my next statement.
You can immediately stop reading and log out of my blog.
Yes, i'm not talking a racist things but averagely what my religion teach me.
Just spreading the knowledge and sunnah.
... This is my own post.
And it's my right.

My main focus is about wedding ceremony vs society.
Because i know it's school holiday now...and surely lots of  invitations are on the list.
We go and bless them, and cheers the event.
Truly good.
It's a positive way in bonded the relationship but instead some are unlike in right path indeed.
That i'm afraid of.

Truly, i know that wedding ceremony is a big day in everyone life.
We'll want the best and the greatest.
Me too.
Some may say that this nonsense thing are trends.
Or others may a victim... Being forced to do a decision.
Grand or not or, some may not come.
Duh, hard enough.
Because this ceremony is like a competition contests as i seen so far.
Day by day.
And they became addicted in doing comparison.

My suggestion. For who want ranking, attention liker... just put your right hand at left chest and ask your Iman.
Did you notice, are this follow the sunnah or you only playing part with the society.
You felt satisfied and really no regret later on?
Confident your ceremony will be fully bless?
The soul of blessing from Him i'm talking about.
If you feel so... go on and just do it.

I love this picture. very. much.
Someone who under mid of tight decision. 
Think about them who like 'jaga tepi kain orang'.
Directly... who's care?
Yeah, until Kiamat/end the Day... this things will never faded,
But did you realize or come on, be alert.
This is your day. 
This is your decision.
This is your life.
This is your money.

Crazy, who created this?

In this phase,your can see how supportive and Islamic your spouse are.
How leadership and gentleman, he can be.
You will win every battle if you fight together, and you will lose if every battle you fight alone.
Impressed them, make them speechless.
Do a presentation if needed. 
Nothing benefit if we please surrounding.
Rather than the peaceful blessed we get from Him.

Nikah/Marriage in in Islam is simple.
Bride, Groom, Custodian from the bride side, two witness and akad (qubul).
That's it.
Perfect conditions to build a mosque.
Beautiful and bless.
Then, when we combined it with all society, culture, traditions... suddenly everything becomes long and complicated!
Astagfirullah al azim.

Last words, 
If your spouse... your parents... your society... respect who you are.
They will let you make a good decision.
Because they understood and support that you never could start your new life without Allah's pleasure.
Happy ending.

Please and please prefer sunnah over traditions, keep your wedding simple!
: )

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Hal Kahwin: Nilai hantaran dan majlisnya.


Last two years, my friends and i attended kursus Kahwin (Sijil Pra Perkahwinan).
Not i'm yang gonna be married.
Don't ask too many question.
Nanti aku sekeh.
Just actually at that time,
I follow my friends who will getting married soon.

Excited pun ada jugak!
Tapi lebih kepada malu-malu, because lot of them came with pasangan masing-masing.
What the fish!
Pikir-pikir-pikiran, nak patah balik ke rumah pun ada terdetik jugak.
Lastly, i paid Rm 80.00... and give me my seat please.
Whatever, ada aku kisah korang datang naik kereta dan pakai baju warna Merah sama-sama?
No okay.
Emo plak.

Thank you Allah kerana takdir-Nya membawa aku ke sini,
Lot of fun and gain knowledge along that a day and half.
From how to choose spouse.
Step by step of wedding.
Rukun, sahihannya...
Rasanya jangka masa yang diberikan macam tak cukup pun aku say YES jugak.
Limited time menyebabkan, most lecturer or ustaz skip their slot.

On the second day, i came late.
And one seat available.
Front row.
Shoot, like flashback back memories at high school.
Where i menjadi 'bahan'.
Red face!
Luckily, classes till mid noon.

Oh, not sure if my day came,
I could remember those things.

My advice for all bride and groom to be, outside there:
Walaupun dia suka buat kerja gila-gila flying fox… main roller coster, turun naik gunung or workaholic.
Secara naturally bila Azan berkumandang, dia akan mempraktiskan apa yang Islam tekankan daripada segala sudut.
One more thing... Walaupun tak handsome, air wuduk yang disapu ke muka memberi ketenangan bagi yang melihat.
Percayalah, boleh kalah Leandro Di Caprio!

One of serious topic i want to discuss is bila ada ustaz mengatakan bahawa mengapa semasa akad nikah di masjid—perlu dibawa hantaran segala ke dalamnya.
Bukankah masjid tempat yang bersih lagi suci.
Mengapa korang bawak juga kasut yang berkulit?
Kek coklat dan buah-buahan yang terlalu indah?
Tablet yang berteknologi tinggi?
Nak show kat siapa?

--- bukankah ini menunjukkan kamu terlalu riak (meninggi diri) dan sifat itu korang bawak ke dalam rumah Allah!  Korang junjung benda itu lebih daripada isi majlis tersebut.
Think about that carefully.

And as pix above, persoalan pada abad ini ialah:Perlukah berhutang untuk berkahwin?
Menurut pandangan aku, (i donno others)
Islam itu mudah.
Rukun nikah tidak menyusahkan.
Sebab itu bagi aku, adab or norms ini jangan ikut if tak mampu.
Membuat sesuatu yang membebankan/berhutang adalah tidak baik.
Parents harus faham ini semua.
Bride or groom to be pon take port.
My advice, take it as simple as possible.

Kahwin bukan untuk sehari dua hidup bersama pasangan kita.
Ianya adalah ikatan seumur hidup sehingga talak tidak di jatuhkan.
Pikir dan pilihlah yang terbaik, buat solat Istiharakh…
Jika benar dia jodohmu, urusan nikah senang dan dipermudahkan...
takkan lari Qada dan Qadar Allah.

Sesungguhnya orang yang baik hanya untuk mereka yang beriman… juga sebaliknya. SubahanaAllah,
Allah maha besar.