Hello.
I really likes the picture above.... Their smile, hand in the air, dirt at trouser, green grass and bubbles everywhere-The environment is so perfect. I don't have any kid yet, but to me if one day God give me one.... I want to it looks like this. Maybe my partner has to be more though in do the washing later.
Not having any children doesn't mean I can't learn anything about them, some info never be a harm right. Like, it somehow so beneficial to me in future. Like any parents out there, I want the best for my kids. So, keep reading and try to get an idea from this post, and enjoy.
Last year i had seen a YouTube video from Dr Bruce Lipton, about how we're programmed at birth. It's so interesting to watch because it's a special story about seven years old and the development things that happen to them specifically. Called me nerd and weird, but yeah. It still amaze me.
From there, I synchronize it with my religion...Islam. I searched any special verse in Quran that somehow touch about this topic. And also make some room for any some hadith too. Later, I brilliantly makes all of this became more and more interesting. In the same time, it encourage me to dig more.
The division is based on the following hadith of the Prophet (s.a.w.): “The child is the master for seven years; and a slave for seven years and a vizier for seven years; so if he grows into a good character within 21 years, well and good; otherwise leave him alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah.”
The same hadith has been explained by Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq (a.s.): “Let your child play up to seven years; and keep him with you (for education and training) for another seven years; then if he succeeds (well and good); otherwise, there is no good in him.”
An example between this two part (above) I can said...our life be sort of by seven years old each time. Is it give you any heart attack? Don't worry, you should be appreciate everything you have right now. Maybe you can make undo by teach a right things to your own kid. Just search more, read more and interesting enough into how growth and development process in human, by physical and mind.
First seven years old (Master)-The baby (0-12 months) we treat as a fragile human that every parents will give them everything they needed-breastfeed, expensive diapers and toys. At toddler (1-3 years old) and preschool (3-5 years old) time, the prince or princess will exposes into intellectual, social and emotional changes. In term, teach them play right (good words, creativity-they will surely follow your every action) until grade school er (5-7 years old).
Next seven years old (Slave)-Continues from grade school er (8-12 years old). As busy you're, makes your kids busy too... These is the time when their own personal power evolves, parents need to be a better guidance in making them have successful life experience. The teenager (12-14 years old), as far as they want to be independent but you're still the chief or top manager in their every mastermind and action. I don't wanna a spoil growth children with useless manner around me. If you kids have a respect towards you, they will listen to you. This also the best zone to teach them salah, sunnah and dua' to memorize.
Later seven years old (Vizier)-Continues from the teenager (15-18 years old), adolescence may hit hard to every parents. This is because the kids will deeply understand what frustration, stress and depression are, and then also bring a joy, pride and closeness to us. The young adult (19-21 years old), this time they will go to to college or university, or even drop everything and get a job. Slowly you will let them responsible by own decision and start analyze whether your hard work really working or not by realize that they're built into good manner or worsen.
Woah, so much commitment! Yups. It's not easy when you want to form a better figure human in the community. You as a parents will makes a first impression in kid life follow by a good teachers and their friends. So teach them right, if not bad influence will affect or led them-maybe from their friends or environment. Dr Henker quote said , ''Stop trying to perfect your child, but keeping trying to perfect your relationship with them''.
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